Introverts and Extroverts

Lots of people commonly associate the words "introverted" and "extroverted" with either shy or outgoing. I definitely did for a long time, and would class myself as an introvert. But when I actually looked at it I discovered the real meaning is quite different. An introvert is someone who gains their energy from time on their own, and they tend to turn inward mentally. In contrast, an extrovert is someone who feels more energised by spending time with other people. They recharge by being social.

After thinking about it for a bit, I have come to the conclusion that I am, in fact, an extrovert. Being alone for too long completely drains me. So then why did I think of myself an introvert? Simply because I am shy. Talking to new people is something I struggle with, and I feel extremely uncomfortable in situations where I don't know many people around me. I gain my energy by being around people that make me feel comfortable, but I will never be the kind of person who can perfectly blend in to unfamiliar surroundings.

There is nothing wrong with being introverted or extroverted. It's just how you and your mind work. In fact, it's actually really cool that different people respond so differently to the same situation. It's just a constant reminder of how unique every single person is! I think that's amazing. For me, recognising I am a shy extrovert really helped me in situations where I felt uncomfortable. I thought it would make me happier if I tried to shield myself from seeing people or being in social situations, because that's how shy people function right? Not always. Getting past the initial shyness and unsettled feelings will always be a battle for me, but I found after I realised I really do function better around people I started making more efforts to see people and socialise. It was hard at first, but I do believe I am happier now. Similarly, if you are an introvert, don't force yourself to do things you know will stress you out and just won't benefit you; you're not alone! Some things just aren't for some people.

Always remember to make decisions that will make you happy; it's fine to think about yourself first sometimes.